Advice on dating a friends ex
QUESTION: Biblically speaking, is it ever ok to be friends with ex-lovers, or keep gifts, mementos, or pictures from past non-marital relationships, if you're headed toward marriage with another person?I met and love a young lady, who has kept up a verbal relationship with her most recent boyfriend (before me) for most of our relationship.She may not be ready in her heart to give it all up for you, and that is a choice she will have to make.There is nothing you can say, show or prove that will change her mind. The most difficult part of a relationship is accepting the other person not as you would like them to be or even who you think they can become.EDITOR' S NOTE: He Said-She Said is a biweekly advice column for singles featuring a question from a reader with responses from a male and female point of view.
From what you have shared, I sense your girlfriend wants to hang onto these people because of the history, comfort and enjoyment she finds in them, possibly at the risk of losing you.
I love this scripture where Paul talks about moving forward in his own walk because he too had a past filled with sin, poor choices and separation from God. We should want to move forward towards the goals God has for us including relationships. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it.
But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus Cliff Young, a contributing writer and a veteran single of many decades.
It could remind both of us of a past that, in my opinion should be forgotten. HE SAID: If you’re looking for a biblical stance to corroborate your feelings that your girlfriend should not retain any past friendships with ex-lovers and friends, I can’t supply you with one.
SEE ALSO: Am I Pursuing Education at the Cost of Love? However, we can discern a general intent of biblical principles which speaks to your situation. SEE ALSO: He Said She Said: Should I Settle for Less?Previous friendships can be maintained after marriage; however it takes boundaries and trust on all parties to make it work. I think some of your girlfriend's answers display a growing maturity in her walk with the Lord.